I have an affinity to the concept of a
"love marriage". It is because I had a first hand view of how a love
marriage should work, right in front of my eyes. I have been seeing and
experiencing it for the past 13 years......I say 13 because before that I was
more interested in cartoons and chocolates. But when puberty hit and the
hormones jagruk hua...thats when I realized there's something called as love.
My
initial thought process was that love was based on looks and it further
led to marriage and then I found out that Shakti Kapoor was married, so that
thought process was shut down with a bang.
It took me a while to realize it was mutual respect, admiration and the
ability to adjust that contributed to a successful marriage. I would also
attribute it to the husband's fear of his wife (believe me I have seen it).
I have seen my parents holding onto each
other in sickness and in health.
A few changes observed in their personalities
post marriage:
1. Dad left alcohol for fear of not being
allowed into his own house by mom.
2. Mom started tolerating vulgar jokes
cracked by dad and me.
3. Dad's pre-marriage "figure"
represented poverty (the thin malnourished look) but post marriage he
successfully developed a belly (which represents prosperity)
4. Even mom had a malnourished look before
marriage but people didn't feel pity until she was pregnant. People say she
looked like she was carrying triplets but were surprised when only one big
human was retrieved.
5. The last but best surprise was that
their kid turned out to be "taller, stronger and sharper" than them
and no this was not because of horlicks.
Being married for 26 years is a huge feat
but to remain in love for such a long time is an even bigger achievement. I
wouldn't call it a miracle because it was
a constant effort from both parties to keep this relationship going
strong.
I can only pray that I would do justice to
my marriage(whenever that happens) and be as lucky as both of you.
Happy Wedding Anniversary.
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